The Harmonious Period

When adopting a child in China the first 24 hours are what is referred to as "The Harmonious Period". This time is sort of an introductory period whereas parents (and children) take the time to get to know each other and determine if the parent-child match is a good one. Sometimes health issues become apparent that were not disclosed, or perhaps an older child makes it clear they do not want to be with the family they've been placed with. One day is not a long time!

Poor Natalie was not feeling well most of the day, still had a temp and really runny nose. She typically has 6 'meals' per day - all bottles, no solids - according to the orphanage - 2 of formula only, and 4 bottles of formula mixed with rice cereal. She didn't finish even one bottle for us. We were able to get her to sip at some formula, some water, and some apple juice. Hopefully it was enough to prevent dehydration. If she doesn't improve tomorrow we will take her to the nearby hospital for a pediatrician to take a look.

She took a nap on my chest for a bit today - it felt like she was beginning to bond with me. She isn't looking away from me as much or pushing at me. She doesn't hold her arms out for me/us, but that will come with time and trust. Andy hasn't been able to spend as much time with her as he's been taking care of paperwork with Aina, and going to the market. She doesn't cry when he holds her but she tends to look for me now and then. But if you look at the picture above I think you'll agree that they're going to get along just fine!

Aina held a small celebration in her room. She brought in a cake and we toasted our babies with Chinese beer. As soon as Natalie and Lily saw each other they both perked up! I had not heard Natalie speak yet and she babbled to her friend, and Lily answered! It was awesome - they were so happy to see each others familiar faces.

So we're at the half-way point and things continue to improve. She's been very serious and sad most of the day, but tonight while we were on Skype she noticed herself in the mirror behind the laptop. She smiled and chuckled a bit. It was so great to see her joy! She is really sweet!

Tomorrow we sign the adoption paperwork and make it official! We've waited for her for so long she just felt like our daughter from the first moment. She's sleeping in her crib now - I just laid her in there about 8:15pm and she fell asleep quickly! I wonder how long that will last...do I dare hope?